Oral Sex | Pleasure That Comes with Risks

Oral sex refers to the use of the mouth, tongue, teeth, or even throat to stimulate the genitals or other erogenous zones of a partner. This includes stimulation of the penis, vulva, or anus, and while it is often perceived as a safer sexual activity compared to penetrative intercourse, it still carries significant risks when it comes to sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Many people mistakenly believe that oral sex is “safe” simply because it does not involve penetration or the risk of pregnancy. However, this form of intimacy can serve as a transmission route for various STIs, especially when protection is not used. HIV, for example, can enter the body through cuts, sores, or microtears in the mouth if it comes into contact with infected semen, blood, or vaginal fluids. Other infections that can be transmitted through oral sex include syphilis, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and HPV — the latter of which can cause genital warts in the mouth or throat and may even lead to oral or throat cancers over time.

The risks associated with unprotected oral sex may not always be immediately visible. A person may contract an infection and remain asymptomatic for months or even years, unknowingly transmitting it to others. This risk increases in certain populations, such as men who have sex with men (MSM), sexually active teenagers, and individuals with multiple partners. Without routine testing and awareness, transmission can occur silently and rapidly.

To reduce the risk, using condoms every time during oral sex is strongly recommended, regardless of the partner’s gender. There are now flavored condoms and ultra-thin varieties designed specifically for oral sex, making them more comfortable and acceptable to use. When engaging in oral sex on female genitals or the anus, a dental dam — a thin latex sheet — is an excellent protective alternative. It’s also advisable to avoid brushing teeth or using strong mouthwash immediately before oral sex to minimize the chance of creating tiny lesions in the mouth that can allow pathogens to enter.

Regular STI screening every 3 to 6 months, open conversations with partners about sexual history and protection methods, and a commitment to accurate information and non-judgmental attitudes all contribute to a safer and more fulfilling sex life. Being responsible does not mean sacrificing intimacy — it means preserving it, with health and trust at the center of the connection.